Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Riddle me this

I've been noticing a trend lately and I don't get it.

If you know you're not happy in your marriage(whether you just don't get along, one is cheating....ect) why would you try to bring a baby into it? I've seen a few people split up, get back together, have a baby THEN get divorced. I don't get it. Do you think a baby will fix it?

If a guy sucks enough to not be faithful, having another baby isn't going to change your mind when having the first baby started his cheating. I know it's none of my business, but why would you intentionally bring a child into a broken home?

If you treat your marriage like a high school relationship and you "break up" with your husband every few months then I would say trying for a baby shouldn't be on your list of things to do.

OR

Why do people post blogs or FB statuses saying how happy they are, how amazing their husband is and how much they miss and love them.....then a few weeks later, they're done, they don't want to be married anymore. I don't think a divorce comes out of nowhere(personally). Why be fake? If you're happy and post about it GREAT! But don't pretend to be happy when you're not.

Are we Military Wives so hooked on looking perfect that we can't reach for help when we are falling?  Are they scared people won't understand? Maybe if they reached out, someone would have "been there" and could offer a helping hand.

I'm just sad to see so many people splitting up when they seemed so happy not long before......

I admit that I'm not one to post about the bad things. But, to be honest, I don't have many bad thins to post about. I also don't believe in "airing my dirty laundry" and possibly saying something I will regret. Do J and I argue? Sure! But I don't feel the need to post every time he falls asleep in the middle of a movie or forgets to take the trash out......I like to post about the good. That way, when he's gone I remember all the wonderful moments and the little bad ones are forgotten. But I am real. I won't post that I'm happy when I'm not. Here I am! I won't sugar coat anything just to make myself feel better, that's just not me.

3 comments:

Bri0213 said...

AMEN sister!!!

Michelle D. said...

DITTO!!!

I try not to gripe. Goodness knows I'm not perfect. But I try not to 'air dirty laundry'. If I do gripe, I'm vague.

It is sad. I fear most people are afraid to ask for the help they need.

(Wild) Rice said...

I'm not one to air dirty laundry about my husband. People will know when I'm upset though. I tend to post things about "I love my husband, but sometimes he makes me so mad." It's real and the truth. I love him to death, but he DOES make me mad at times.

I think people dont want to believe that their relationship is toast, so they post good things to try to make themselves believe that's the way the relationship is. A way of escaping and ignoring it.

I'll never understand the baby thing though. If the relationship is already broke, a baby wont make it suddenly right. Babies are stressful enough when you're in a healthy relationship. Why would you want to add one into an unhealthy one?