Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Stay-at-home mom/wife

I feel like I don't have much to say. Justin has been working pretty late these past few days so I feel like we are always trying to catch up. Justin got home and dinner was in the oven last night. He's always so great at telling me how much he appreciates all that I do for him. He thanks me for making dinner every night and always comments if I clean a bunch. It makes me feel great that he notices all I do and because he never takes me for granted it makes me want to clean and take care of him.

Sometimes I feel bad about it though. I never thought that he would be completely taking care of me...I know "Kim that's what you do when you get married" but I'm not helpless. I feel like I should be doing more. But like Justin said my time is better spent with Landon making sure he grows up the way we want him to. I'm lucky that I get to be a stay-at-home mom even if that means that Justin is the bread winner for now. When Landon is in school I want to get a job or go to school. I think I have finally figured out what I want to do career wise. We will see when the time comes. But for now Justin tells me that he's been taking care of me for 7 years and he will keep on doing it for 70 more.

Is it just me or does anyone else ever feel guilty for staying home while their husband works? and do you think there is a difference between stay-at-home moms and stay-at-home wives?


Stephanie said...

I always feel guilty for not working full time. I cook, clean,take care of bills, and swear we wouldn't have this house if I wasn't by the phone all the time taking calls from people. I chose to substitute teach this semester because it will look good on my resume after I get done with grad school. I also plan on working part time this summer. I do think there is a difference between a stay at home mom and a wife. Mom's job is a bit more detailed. I think going back to school, even if its just to get your associate's, would be great for you once Landon goes to school :)

~His~ said...

i feel guilty sometimes and then i step back and look at what we do for eachother and i think i would feel more guilty if i didn't do some things for stine...i think a stay at home mom is a job all on its own one every (good) mom should be given a raise daily but wives i guess it all depends on you and your lifestyle and what you want...i wouldn't do it just to "help finances" but make sure to do something you love and excites you for a career.

Blonski fam said...

I have been stuggling with this too. I often feel like what I do at home is never enough. However- I do remember as I was growing up- my mom was a stay at home mom... and I would have not wanted it any other way. I loved that my mom was home to raise me... and I have to keep reminding myself that I too am making a difference. It may not be big, I may not keep the house perfectly clean or dinner may not always be ready for Steve when he comes home... but I would not give my time up with my children for anything!!
I do think there sis a HUGE difference between moms and wives. Moms have children to look after and raise. I know for myself that it would be hard for me to sit at home if I were not a MOM.
I know this was long.. but I do think that you being a stay at home mom IS enough and that your time will come when Landon is at school all day and you will be grateful for the time spent with him.

Jenn and Eric said...

I feel the guilt alot. Especially when I look at the things we cant have and think to myself, if I worked, we could have that. Then, I remind myself that with 3 children, me not working is more cost effective while we are in CT.

It has taken me a long time to realize that being a stay-at-home mom makes me no less of a person than if I was working.

Crazy Shenanigans said...

Yeah I feel guilty when it comes to that situation. I'm trying to work as much as possible while Matt is on deployment so I'll have money and won't have to feed off him lol.

However, when you have kids and do everything else. That is your work!

Strong "er" then you! said...

I always felt bad but as John says you DON'T HAVE TO WORK. Well I had 2 jobs while in CT and they lasted for a while but then I quit. I loved having the extra money because we got to do so much more with the extra money that was coming in. Having a job also took up the time when he was out to sea or on deployments.

But I do get bored being a stay at home mom now even with an almost 6 month old. Could be because I have no friends here and John works around the clock...more then he did when he was on the Alex BOO! MISS YOU KIM!!

Joe and Samantha said...

Ah, something I'm starting to struggle with- We're set up our lives financially for me to NOT have to work when Baby LaCouture comes.

I'm not sure I can. I'll have to do something- but it will be a very PART TIME something. Joe and I both want me to be the sole influence in baby L's life. And I always try to remember people WOULD love to be able to be in my position- so I shouldn't complain. LOL

Landon is a great kid- and that's owed COMPLETELY to you and Justin and the fact that you ARE a stay at home mom. KUDOS to you.